I’d done a lot of reading on writing birth plans. Some couples loved having them because it saved them time rather than having to re-explain preferences to new staff when the nurses did a shift change, and it provided a quick and easy guide for their caregivers to refer to. Others felt like it was a reminder of disappointment when things did not go according to how they had planned.
I decided to write a birth plan, but called it “What we hope for” instead. This title is as much for me as it is for the hospital. I need to keep in mind that although there are things that I want or want to avoid, I need to be open minded and flexible when it comes to labour and delivery. I don’t want to have a strict plan because chances are, that’s just not going to happen. All that matters in the end is that we have a happy and healthy baby at the end of it all.
Here is a copy of our birth plan:
WHAT WE HOPE FOR – Our Birth Plan
[Tasha and M]
Due Date: Sept 2
Doctor – XXXXXX
Personal note: I’d like to give natural birth a go, but am open to medical interventions if needed. The pain medication I am most ok with is Entonox. The ones I would most want to avoid are any that may affect breastfeeding. I’d really like ideas and support for non-medical ways to manage pain. I’d like to know when we’re nearing the “point of no return” for an epidural so I can decide at that time if I think I can make it without one.
- I’d like M to be my main support person, who will stay with me as much as possible
- If needed, my mother may switch off with him to give him a break
- I prefer not to have my labour augmented as long as my baby and I are fine. If needed, I’d like to start with natural methods before going to medication.
- I’d like to spend the first stage of labour walking, sitting up or on a birthing ball, in the tub or in the shower.
- I’d like to eat, drink or have ice chips to stay hydrated and keep my energy up. If possible, I’d prefer not to have an IV.
- I’d like to push squatting or other gravity-helpful positions when I have the urge, not with coaching.
- I would like to use perineal massage, warm compresses and positioning first before performing an episiotomy. I’d rather risk a small tear, but if an episiotomy is necessary, please use local anaesthesia.
- I hope to have a vaginal delivery and would like to try as many options as possible to avoid a c-section.
- I’d like to have baby on my chest, skin to skin, immediately after birth so we can breastfeed, and continue to breastfeed on demand
- M would like to cut the umbilical cord
- Please don’t offer formula or soothers to the baby, I plan to breastfeed exclusively
- M will give baby its first bath
- If needed, M will accompany the baby to the NICU
I can barely believe it… Only ONE MONTH to go until I’m due!!! Looking back at everything we’ve been through since we first conceived in September and lost the baby in October… dealing with the miscarriage through November… getting our lives sort of back on track when I got my period again…. then that wonderful Christmas Day when we found out I was pregnant again…sitting on pins and needles through the first trimester… continued anxiety through my second trimester as I couldn’t shake that nagging worry…. dealing with sleepless nights due to this watermelon where my stomach used to be…. and now – at nearly 36 weeks!
September 2nd is oh-so-close!! I can’t wait to meet you, baby!
I have an app on my iPhone from WhatToExpect.com. It’s awesome, I check it every day. I added it to my iPhone after we had passed that critical 13 week mark. Before that, I was too scared that I might jinx us or that if I had another miscarriage, it would be another painful task to have to delete it.
Now that we are safely past that mark, I check it every day for the daily updates. Every Thursday, I read the weekly updates to see what changes are happening for baby and for my body. When you first open the app, it brings you to this page that shows how far along you are, the length and weight of baby, what trimester you are in, and a countdown. For what seemed like an eternity, the countdown was longer than the gestational age. It was an exciting day when we hit that halfway mark and it started going the other way. Today I am 31 weeks and 4 days along, making the countdown 8 weeks and 3 days.
8 weeks and 3 days!!!
I remember very vividly when I was 8 weeks into this pregnancy. I was terrified. That was when I miscarried the first time around and so this time, every day was like walking on thin ice. I can hardly believe that it’s now the other way around with only 8 weeks left to go until we get to meet baby!
It seems like time is starting to go by faster and faster. I remember how many times I wished for time to speed up after my miscarriage. Now it’s finally happening. M and I were looking at a calendar tonight and realized how busy we’ll be from now until the baby comes. This weekend, we have to take the dogs to the vet, a spa appointment and a family birthday dinner. Next weekend is a friend’s BBQ and his hockey playoffs. The weekend after that, I made plans with my mom to see a movie and go shopping for a nursing bra and pajamas or some nighties for breastfeeding, and I’m going to a bridal shower. Next up is the long weekend, when we’ll go away for a few days. Then the next two weekends will be my baby showers, and the following weekend we’re attending a wedding. And the weekend after that? Well, that will be only days before baby is due.